There will be a point where you reach that place. Then you will need to move beyond that, and build upon legacies and examples rather than simply measure up to them. I think you're ready to do that now, if you wished me to be candid.
If we were to discuss practical matters with regards to claims, I feel that hers is much easier to prove than yours, given that most involved with the matter are no longer living.
But let us move beyond that. I have always seen an emphasis on equality between the two of you. So long as that's achieved, I doubt claim would matter. In many ways from what you've said, it seems that it is mostly settled. This information just adds a new dimension to that.
It's what I'm trying to do — what we're trying to do. Neither of them ever faced anything like what we'll be facing.
And you're right. I'm not eager to lie to the people, and I doubt she is, either, but it's not a claim I'm much eager to prove. You could argue that I already gave it up, years ago, when I didn't know what I was giving up.
[In so many ways.]
It still can't be the easiest thing for her. We have to trust each other. I was afraid it might change something.
All that time, we talked about becoming each other's family, and now this. It's not too close, aunt and nephew or uncle and niece, not where we come from, but it's very near to it. Her family married closer for centuries. Our family. Her parents were brother and sister.
In that case, I'd consider that an improvement. In many cases back home, violence and trials cycle through, rather than present new challenges.
I believe the point about your blood relationship goes back to claims, proving them, and what you have and haven't forfeited due to what seemed like the right choice at the time. If the matter can't be proven, you save yourselves from a good deal of problems. But if there is documentation discovered later, it could be a double edged sword in many respects. Especially given from what I know of her own family and how marriages were brokered.
If you two were simple private individuals, none of this would matter. I don't know your land's politics well either, and I am trying to leave any political thoughts to the wayside for now. Are you both comfortable with this degree of separation?
I wouldn't go looking to marry my aunt. The family I was raised in — it's happened once or twice, long ago, but it's not our way.
But when I learned of it, I already loved her. We'd already spoken many times of the children we might have, and how we wanted them. I didn't think of how I might become king in my own right; I never wanted to be King in the North, let alone the king of all the kingdoms. My name isn't even what I thought it was, it's
well, we know what AEGONNER means now.
All I could think of when I learned of it was how I might lose her over it, and lose those children, if we might be so lucky as to have them. She's been working towards pursuing her claim for a third of her life now, and she's been determined to prove to the people that she isn't the sort of cruel tyrant that her father was, and if it's ever known back at home, marrying another member of her family might not be best for appearances. When I told her, her greatest fear seemed to be losing me.
Learning that she's my aunt couldn't make me stop loving her. Loving her like this makes me forget that she's my aunt.
I want to know who makes up these names for the BCEs. Their sense of humor and depth of knowledge is concerning.
Then it sounds to me that the part that is most important and hardest to work around is a long settled matter, and that you're fortunate enough to have zero doubts on that front. Especially since you've moved well into the stages of life after marriage, when that sort of work truly begins. I'm not going to give additional thoughts or advice on relationships, they're perilous enough in my time and place that if I say something, some god has probably changed circumstances on a whim anyway.
Everything else, it seems, is politics and any compromises that may be made. And I trust you both to plan ahead for them.
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If we were to discuss practical matters with regards to claims, I feel that hers is much easier to prove than yours, given that most involved with the matter are no longer living.
But let us move beyond that. I have always seen an emphasis on equality between the two of you. So long as that's achieved, I doubt claim would matter. In many ways from what you've said, it seems that it is mostly settled. This information just adds a new dimension to that.
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And you're right. I'm not eager to lie to the people, and I doubt she is, either, but it's not a claim I'm much eager to prove. You could argue that I already gave it up, years ago, when I didn't know what I was giving up.
[In so many ways.]
It still can't be the easiest thing for her. We have to trust each other. I was afraid it might change something.
All that time, we talked about becoming each other's family, and now this. It's not too close, aunt and nephew or uncle and niece, not where we come from, but it's very near to it. Her family married closer for centuries. Our family. Her parents were brother and sister.
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I believe the point about your blood relationship goes back to claims, proving them, and what you have and haven't forfeited due to what seemed like the right choice at the time. If the matter can't be proven, you save yourselves from a good deal of problems. But if there is documentation discovered later, it could be a double edged sword in many respects. Especially given from what I know of her own family and how marriages were brokered.
If you two were simple private individuals, none of this would matter. I don't know your land's politics well either, and I am trying to leave any political thoughts to the wayside for now. Are you both comfortable with this degree of separation?
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But when I learned of it, I already loved her. We'd already spoken many times of the children we might have, and how we wanted them. I didn't think of how I might become king in my own right; I never wanted to be King in the North, let alone the king of all the kingdoms. My name isn't even what I thought it was, it's
well, we know what AEGONNER means now.
All I could think of when I learned of it was how I might lose her over it, and lose those children, if we might be so lucky as to have them. She's been working towards pursuing her claim for a third of her life now, and she's been determined to prove to the people that she isn't the sort of cruel tyrant that her father was, and if it's ever known back at home, marrying another member of her family might not be best for appearances. When I told her, her greatest fear seemed to be losing me.
Learning that she's my aunt couldn't make me stop loving her. Loving her like this makes me forget that she's my aunt.
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Then it sounds to me that the part that is most important and hardest to work around is a long settled matter, and that you're fortunate enough to have zero doubts on that front. Especially since you've moved well into the stages of life after marriage, when that sort of work truly begins. I'm not going to give additional thoughts or advice on relationships, they're perilous enough in my time and place that if I say something, some god has probably changed circumstances on a whim anyway.
Everything else, it seems, is politics and any compromises that may be made. And I trust you both to plan ahead for them.