In that case, I'd consider that an improvement. In many cases back home, violence and trials cycle through, rather than present new challenges.
I believe the point about your blood relationship goes back to claims, proving them, and what you have and haven't forfeited due to what seemed like the right choice at the time. If the matter can't be proven, you save yourselves from a good deal of problems. But if there is documentation discovered later, it could be a double edged sword in many respects. Especially given from what I know of her own family and how marriages were brokered.
If you two were simple private individuals, none of this would matter. I don't know your land's politics well either, and I am trying to leave any political thoughts to the wayside for now. Are you both comfortable with this degree of separation?
I wouldn't go looking to marry my aunt. The family I was raised in — it's happened once or twice, long ago, but it's not our way.
But when I learned of it, I already loved her. We'd already spoken many times of the children we might have, and how we wanted them. I didn't think of how I might become king in my own right; I never wanted to be King in the North, let alone the king of all the kingdoms. My name isn't even what I thought it was, it's
well, we know what AEGONNER means now.
All I could think of when I learned of it was how I might lose her over it, and lose those children, if we might be so lucky as to have them. She's been working towards pursuing her claim for a third of her life now, and she's been determined to prove to the people that she isn't the sort of cruel tyrant that her father was, and if it's ever known back at home, marrying another member of her family might not be best for appearances. When I told her, her greatest fear seemed to be losing me.
Learning that she's my aunt couldn't make me stop loving her. Loving her like this makes me forget that she's my aunt.
I want to know who makes up these names for the BCEs. Their sense of humor and depth of knowledge is concerning.
Then it sounds to me that the part that is most important and hardest to work around is a long settled matter, and that you're fortunate enough to have zero doubts on that front. Especially since you've moved well into the stages of life after marriage, when that sort of work truly begins. I'm not going to give additional thoughts or advice on relationships, they're perilous enough in my time and place that if I say something, some god has probably changed circumstances on a whim anyway.
Everything else, it seems, is politics and any compromises that may be made. And I trust you both to plan ahead for them.
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I believe the point about your blood relationship goes back to claims, proving them, and what you have and haven't forfeited due to what seemed like the right choice at the time. If the matter can't be proven, you save yourselves from a good deal of problems. But if there is documentation discovered later, it could be a double edged sword in many respects. Especially given from what I know of her own family and how marriages were brokered.
If you two were simple private individuals, none of this would matter. I don't know your land's politics well either, and I am trying to leave any political thoughts to the wayside for now. Are you both comfortable with this degree of separation?
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But when I learned of it, I already loved her. We'd already spoken many times of the children we might have, and how we wanted them. I didn't think of how I might become king in my own right; I never wanted to be King in the North, let alone the king of all the kingdoms. My name isn't even what I thought it was, it's
well, we know what AEGONNER means now.
All I could think of when I learned of it was how I might lose her over it, and lose those children, if we might be so lucky as to have them. She's been working towards pursuing her claim for a third of her life now, and she's been determined to prove to the people that she isn't the sort of cruel tyrant that her father was, and if it's ever known back at home, marrying another member of her family might not be best for appearances. When I told her, her greatest fear seemed to be losing me.
Learning that she's my aunt couldn't make me stop loving her. Loving her like this makes me forget that she's my aunt.
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Then it sounds to me that the part that is most important and hardest to work around is a long settled matter, and that you're fortunate enough to have zero doubts on that front. Especially since you've moved well into the stages of life after marriage, when that sort of work truly begins. I'm not going to give additional thoughts or advice on relationships, they're perilous enough in my time and place that if I say something, some god has probably changed circumstances on a whim anyway.
Everything else, it seems, is politics and any compromises that may be made. And I trust you both to plan ahead for them.